Thursday, August 15, 2013

Comparisons

We all do it. We see that the proverbial Jones’s have the next best thing, and we do everything we can to keep up. Or, we make the astute realization that we can’t possible attain such wonderful things, success, etc. and beat ourselves up for not being or doing enough.

In a digital age, the temptation to compare ourselves on a daily, heck hourly, basis is exponentially amplified as our lives are shared for public consumption. What we see on Facebook though are just the highlights, with people sharing maybe 10% of what they actually experience (that 10% being the most beautiful and exciting.) We have a distorted view of reality that doesn’t take into account the humanness behind the screen. A view that doesn’t register that even those with the most gorgeous instagram photos have their downfalls.

We compare our full reality to others’ 10% and come to the conclusion that something is missing from our world. That we are inadequate, we are failures, we are not enough. We can never recreate those beautiful images on Pinterest, no matter how hard we try, and that make us less-than. It’s hard to see everything you have when you’re constantly bombarded by pictures of people who have everything you think you want. Well guys, I’m here to shed some light on the subject.

You are more than enough. Everything you are is a gift, to you and to those around you. Were you any different, your unique contributions to this world would be lost. One of my favorite quotes in all the world comes from Martha Graham. I shared it in last week’s “The ABCs of Me” post, but I think it’s worth sharing again.

“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost.”
This is so true. Your experiences, your highs and your lows, they shape who you are. And who you are and who you are meant to become are so important in the grand scheme of things.

If you stop comparing yourself to others and just allow yourself to become the greatest version of you possible, not only do you grant yourself the freedom to just be without the pressure of living up to some made-up societal expectations, you also begin to see just how much you can contribute to others. Your unique ability to impact history can be uncovered, your energy released in such a positive way.

Just do you. Stop worrying about the comparisons.

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